It’s hard to know whether the reason why you feel upset / angry / not good enough is down to someones actions or your own insecurities.

Is it a me problem? I ask myself when something effects me.

No one can make you truly happy but yourself. The people you surround yourself with can help or really drag you down. But the only real person who will give you true fulfilment is you.

I struggle with feeling insecure (as I am sure most of us do) and I have a boyfriend, friends, family who help me with that extremely well, and I love and appreciate all that they do. The reassurance does make me feel better. At the time.

But eventually that feeling of being insecure / not good enough will come up again. That’s when I realised that no one else can fix you. They can “fix” you temporarily, but when you are alone it is down to you, and your mind to respect yourself.

I find that I usually feel this way after checking my social media. Seeing pretty girls with amazing intelligence and amazing body’s. I would say that social media is toxic.

But there is absolutely nothing wrong with posting photos you think you look good in. We all do it ?? And we don’t do it to make other people feel insecure. We do it to make ourselves feel good, to feel validation through comments and likes.

So, is it a me problem? Yes. I think it is.

And it’s a problem I am willing to work on.

When you feel lost, upset, angry and it’s out of your control, ask yourself why do I feel like this? What made me feel like this and why am I reacting like this? And you will learn a lot from yourself.

I found that when I am upset / angry it is best to sit with myself first before I take it out on others.

It’s all about self-respect rather than self-confidence. Respect yourself then it will be easier to love yourself, your insecurities, and your flaws.